01.21.2010

I’ve never met a man that doesn’t masturbate. I have, however, met scores of women who don’t. It’s no wonder so many women have never had an orgasm – how can you possibly tell someone how to get you off if you yourself don’t know how? I rub one out religiously before bed, which must make me some sort of a sexpert, right? This being said, I’ll throw in my own two cents (more like a quarter: inflation) with some of the information I found online.

If there’s one thing I learned from my research, it’s that vaginas are like snowflakes, no two are alike. Everyone likes something different and you just have to try new things to determine what works best for you. Here are some ideas:

- Toys – I don’t think anyone would disagree that props make the play better. Vibrators are a cheap and easy way to start off. When you’re comfortable with the basics, you can then graduate to The Rabbit. Many friends have recommended dildos, but personally I don’t like anything foreign up there (unless he’s Dominican – booya)!

- Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb – Don’t underrate the power of your own palm. Sometimes the right friction can only be done with a hand… and your own, at that. I recommend rubbing over any thin fabric instead of directly on your clit – panties work perfectly, as do sheets. One site suggested tracing the entire alphabet on your hot button – this seems rather tedious and requires entirely too much thought, but let me know…

Shower to Shower – An untold secret in many happily ending masturbating stories. Removable shower heads are ideal, but even spreading ‘em under the bathtub faucet will do the trick and the compromising position can be a plus. In the summer, sometimes a pool filter can provide a good gush that will do the job – less accessible, but then you can tan while you play. It’s a win win!

Girls, I leave you to it: WOMANOAH!

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